If I were to ask you of your fondest memories, most of you would be transported to your childhood. Some of you may recount the stories of your mischiefs and adventures while others may remember stories from the school. Some of you may even tell me how you miss ‘Ma ke haath ka khana’ and ‘Papa ki daant’. Wasn’t it an amazing time when all you cared about was having fun?
If you have a sibling, your childhood must have been even better. All those squabbles, silly fights and teasings comments may have annoyed you to no end that time. However, today you would do anything to travel back in time and relive those days.
It is a sad fact that as you grow older and carry on with your lives, you tend to drift apart from your siblings. Although you may mean well, it doesn’t always reflect in our actions. Well, the truth is that your relationship with siblings requires work just like any other relationship in your life. Here is how you can reconnect with your siblings and rekindle that beloved bond.
Tips to strengthen your bond with your siblings
Discuss your relationship
The very first step is to open up with your sibling and have a heart-to-heart. You may have had an argument or a squabble in the past but it is best to let it remain in the past. There is no point in letting any misunderstandings or flimsy reasons to sour your relationship. Discuss this with your sibling and let her know that you are ready to give the relationship a new and positive turn.
You will have to be realistic and patient if you want to work on this relationship. Firstly, you can’t expect everything to become rosy overnight. You will have to give it some time and space so that it can take its own course. It is advisable to not get worked up if your sibling doesn’t respond in a similar manner. Remember positivity breeds positivity. Warm and generous actions from you will reap similar reactions from your siblings. Although it may take some time.
Every family goes through some drama and every person has his or her shares of problems. If your family unnecessarily singles out your sibling or if there is a relative who tries to insinuate her; it is best to support your siblings in such situations. In other cases, your sibling may be going through a hard time in life. She could be having a tough time at work or with her partner. Stand in solidarity with her and show your support. And mean your words and actions. With these little gestures, you will win her trust and she will return to you for your love and support in future.
Go on a vacation
Holidays are perfect if you want to rekindle your relationships. Whether it is with your spouse, children or your siblings. Plan a vacation with your sibling to enjoy each other’s company. You can even take the kids along so that the love can pass on to the next generation. It is always nice to meet in person and remember the good old times. Trust me, you will return with a smile on your face and a box full of sweet memories.
Stay in touch
As I have been repeating, it is important that your intentions reflect in your actions. It is essential to regularly call or text your sibling. In this age of social media, it is not tough to text a simple Hi even on your busiest days. Keep her updated with the little things that are happening in your life and ask her the same. Ask about the well being of your nieces and nephews. The point is to touch base now and then and talk.
Now, this should be the end goal of all the efforts from your side. Leave your childhood roles of being the pampered one or being a bully in the past. If you are the elder one, try not to advise until you are asked. Treat each other as equals and respect the other person. It may also help to draw a boundary so that neither of you overstep your place in each other’s lives.
Besides all these, it is important to be respectful of your sibling’s partner. You may not get along like fire but it will help to stay cordial despite your differences. Remember the goal is to revive your relationship with your sibling. With these tips, it won’t be long before you can enjoy a strong bond with your sibling again.